True Friendship

Anytime is a good time to evaluate our friendship with God and what is meant by friendship with God. May this letter bring us closer to the realization of the meaning, “true friendship”. It is God’s desire to restore His friendship with man. True friendship only occurs where there is a two-sided relationship.

Let’s take a look at the very words of our Lord and Savior, Jesus, and examine our hearts. In the gospel of John, Jesus speaks to His disciples and tells them who His true friends are.

  • John 15:14 (KJV) Ye are my friends, if ye do whatsoever I command you. In another translation it reads “You are my friends if you obey me.”

To be a friend of God we must be obedient to His ways in His Word and as directed by the Holy Spirit. This consist of living a life of (holiness and purity) submitting to His Word (the Bible). Truly this is a challenge that all believers should strive to attain.

For true friendship between man and man or man and God there are four areas that must be experienced and shared. A Biblical example of true friendship (between David and Jonathan) can be found in:

  • 2 Samuel 1:26 How I weep for you, my brother Jonathan! Oh, how much I loved you! And your love for me was deep, deeper than the love of women!

For true friendship we must examine:

1. the area of our committal (in every area)
2. the depth of our committal (deep – a devoted depth)
3. the quality of that committal (a challenging quality)
4. How far are we committed to the Lord Jesus and to what depth?

Being committed to Christ means more than just expressions by words of love and devotion: “Ye are my friends, if ye do whatsoever I command you,” Jesus said. “If ye do” not “If ye say”. Yes, a true friend of God will do what He says. True friendship to the Person of Christ means more than expressions of words.

True friendship to Christ also means doing His plan (His will) . Living the “christian life” going thru suffering of persecution and rejection without rebellion.

  • As Paul states, “I can do all things through Christ that strengthened me” again Paul states that “Christ is made perfect in our weakness”.

God has called us to live a life of holy living, a quality of living that is pure. Because of the various problems that surround us, our carnal (human) nature has the tendency to follow after sin.

Chastening is a word that is used in the scriptures involving training, teaching and instruction. We as believers are to endure chastisement from the Lord as stated in:

  • Hebrews 12:5-13 “My child, don’t ignore it when the Lord disciplines you, and don’t be discouraged when he corrects you. For the Lord disciplines those he loves, and he punishes those he accepts as his children.” As you endure this divine discipline, remember that God is treating you as his own children. Whoever heard of a child who was never disciplined? If God doesn’t discipline you as he does all of his children, it means that you are illegitimate and are not really his children after all. Since we respect our earthly fathers who disciplined us, should we not all the more cheerfully submit to the discipline of our heavenly Father and live forever? For our earthly fathers disciplined us for a few years, doing the best they knew how. But God’s discipline is always right and good for us because it means we will share in his holiness. No discipline is enjoyable while it is happening—it is painful! But afterward there will be a quiet harvest of right living for those who are trained in this way. So take a new grip with your tired hands and stand firm on your shaky legs. Mark out a straight path for your feet. Then those who follow you, though they are weak and lame, will not stumble and fall but will become strong.

Our God is a Holy God. We have to face up to our problems recognizing that this is how God is training us for tasks in our future. Prayer and Bible study are two things that build our relationship with God; maintaining a maturity in spiritual things so we can continue to be successful in service for our Lord.

As I have stated in a previous letter, as a mature Christians we have won our battle with Satan. Yes, we know in whom we trust. Because Christ lives in us we are an over comer and victory is ours.

  • 1 John 2:14 I have written to you, children, because you have known the Father. I have written to you who are mature because you know Christ, the one who is from the beginning. I have written to you who are young because you are strong with God’s word living in your hearts, and you have won your battle with Satan.

The Bible teaches that a young man or mature Christian is characterized by three things:

1. They are strong; they stand and face the devil and do not compromise.
2. The Word of God abides in them,
3. They are over-comers over the devil and his evil deeds.

This is much need in the Church today. We as mature Christians should be able to relate the Word of God in our daily living and experience victory day by day in all we do. The very presence of God in one’s life is the most important factor in a mature Christian not age.

Successful witnessing is only guaranteed in one’s life as He is obedient to the Word of God. Meditating in God’s Word will bring about a changed mind and heart, through conviction of sin, thought and deed.

Because we have the complete Word today, there is no reason why we cannot live in victory today. We must place ourselves unreserved before our Father God, claiming no personal authority for our deeds; just as Jesus claimed no personal authority for His deeds, His will, His teaching or His words.

Take to heart these scriptures where Jesus states the basis of true friendship with the Father.

  • John 5:19 Jesus replied, “I assure you, the Son can do nothing by himself. He does only what he sees the Father doing. Whatever the Father does, the Son also does.
  • John 5:30 But I do nothing without consulting the Father. I judge as I am told. And my judgment is absolutely just, because it is according to the will of God who sent me; it is not merely my own.
  • John 7:16 So Jesus told them, “I’m not teaching my own ideas, but those of God who sent me.
  • John 8:28 So Jesus said, “When you have lifted up the Son of Man on the cross, then you will realize that I am he and that I do nothing on my own, but I speak what the Father taught me.
  • John 8:29 And the one who sent me is with me—he has not deserted me. For I always do those things that are pleasing to him.”
  • John 14:10 Don’t you believe that I am in the Father and the Father is in me? The words I say are not my own, but my Father who lives in me does his work through me.
  • John 5:19 Jesus replied, “I assure you, the Son can do nothing by himself. He does only what he sees the Father doing. Whatever the Father does, the Son also does.
  • John 5:30 But I do nothing without consulting the Father. I judge as I am told. And my judgment is absolutely just, because it is according to the will of God who sent me; it is not merely my own.
  • John 7:16 So Jesus told them, “I’m not teaching my own ideas, but those of God who sent me.
  • John 8:28 So Jesus said, “When you have lifted up the Son of Man on the cross, then you will realize that I am he and that I do nothing on my own, but I speak what the Father taught me.
  • John 8:29 And the one who sent me is with me—he has not deserted me. For I always do those things that are pleasing to him.”
  • John 14:10 Don’t you believe that I am in the Father and the Father is in me? The words I say are not my own, but my Father who lives in me does his work through me.

It is and should always be a dependency in the Father in us, the very presence or power of the Holy Spirit dwelling within us that true friendship with God is revealed.

For this very reason it is the utmost importance that I always present the Gospel of Jesus Christ holy, pure and truthful. This will only come through my/ our own individual prayer, study in His Word and obedience to the work of the Holy Spirit.

It is always my prayer when presenting the Gospel that I present myself to God as a living sacrifice unto Him and the very work of the Holy Spirit in me. God chose us to bring forth fruit – fruit that would remain.

We are to be branches on the vine bearing the fruit…but we cannot produce the fruit…God, Jesus and the Holy Spirit, will produce the fruit in and through us as we keep that relationship. We are to “abide” in the vine (Christ Jesus).

True friendship with God is “abiding” in the vine.

Love in Christ Jesus,
Paul Lundmark

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