This morning my thoughts remain on both forgiveness and unforgiveness which plays an important part in our relationships. Let me start by asking; What causes a relationship to turn or you might say, go the other direction? Of course my perspective will point to the Christian view.
Let me start by saying, Christianity is all about relationships. A relationship with God must always come first and this relationship with God can ONLY come as we forgive others. A right relationship with God is of the utmost importance when it comes to prayer and communication with God. Our prayers seem empty and our communication with God will be blocked when there is unforgiveness in our lives toward others.
Even in our human relationships “if” there is unforgiveness there becomes envy and strife and there goes our relationship. So you can say, FORGIVENESS is a must to keep in right-standing (relationship) with man and God.
Jesus makes it perfectly clear, living righteously will bring about His blessings and favor.
Ephesians 4:32 (NLT) … “be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you.”
Matthew 6:33 (NLT) Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need.
Jesus was and is the prime example of a life filled with forgiveness, a life filled with love in which we as Christians are to be imitators of God and his Son, Jesus. This means we must be forgiving toward others even when they wrong us.
Unforgiveness in our hearts blocks our ability to love and love is the very foundation of all our relationships as Christians.
As we have seen from the Word, Jesus stresses forgiveness as a very important component in the life of the Pray-er. Unforgiveness can also smother our faith in prayer and that of receiving all that we need.
Ephesians 5:2 (NLT) Live a life filled with love, following the example of Christ. He loved us and offered himself as a sacrifice for us, a pleasing aroma to God.
Forbearing and forgiving are attitudes of the heart and also are actions that we take toward others. Forgiving is that of letting go all feelings of resentment. Yes, to pardon, to relieve and even overlook the sins of others and forgetting.
Matthew 6:12 (NLT) and forgive us our sins, as we have forgiven those who sin against us.
“Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others.” Colossians 3:13 (NLT)
Forbearance is an attitude of the heart in which the person never seeks gratification of feelings of resentment and it does not seek to demand vengeance. This implies the control of oneself when provoked.
Paul makes this very clear in 1 Peter 2:19- 23 (NLT) “For God is pleased with you when you do what you know is right and patiently endure unfair treatment. Of course, you get no credit for being patient if you are beaten for doing wrong. But if you suffer for doing good & endure it patiently, God is pleased with you. For God called you to do good, even if it means suffering, just as Christ suffered for you. He is your example, and you must follow in his steps. He never sinned, nor ever deceived anyone. He did not retaliate when he was insulted, nor threaten revenge when he suffered. He left his case in the hands of God, who always judges fairly.”
Prayer is the very cure to healing the spirit, soul and body. When praying with a right heart, an attitude of love; it releases’ healing in both parties for it is impossible to continue to hate someone we are praying for.
This is why Jesus said in Matthew to pray for those who hurt us, attack us or come against us. Matthew 5:44 (NLT) But I say, love your enemies! Pray for those who persecute you! Romans 12:21 (NLT) Don’t let evil conquer you, but conquer evil by doing good.
Praying with a forgiving heart opens the way for God to soften our hearts and enables us to let forgiveness flow into us…out and through us… to others.
Love is truly the fruit to be spreading in all we do.
As always, Love in Christ Jesus,